Living in a neurodiverse relationship can be confusing and overwhelming. Over the years, I watched my identity slowly erode to where I no longer recognized the woman staring back at me in the mirror. I was full of self-doubt, and my once vibrant personality was overflowing with anger and resentment. I felt so detached that I wondered if I would ever be able to find my way back, but I had faith.

If I were to succeed, I would have to dig deep to rebuild the foundation of my identity. In quiet reflection, I asked myself these questions.

What is essential to me? What do I value, and how will I live these values?

I realized my values would determine my choices and shape my future. They are the most valuable resource I possess. They get me through difficult times, make me aware of my blessings, and inform my decisions. They create order in my world and keep me grounded. They also help me catch myself when I veer off track.

Clarifying my values allowed me to regain control, rediscover myself, and find fulfillment regardless of my challenging relationship.